Savoring the Moments: A Parent’s Guide to the College Admissions Journey

Dear Parents,

For many of us, life is a series of milestones—each one a cause for celebration. Yet amid the constant chase for the next achievement, it’s easy to forget to savor the moments in between.

Believe it or not, the college admissions process is a lot like a second pregnancy—with its own blend of excitement, nerves, and yes, even a bit of waiting-room anxiety! Remember those early days of pregnancy? You reveled in the wonder of “What to Expect When You’re Expecting,” debated baby names, and dreamt about the future.

That’s exactly how the college journey begins: filled with exploration, campus visits, and heartfelt advice from trusted experts. But now, as the final weeks roll in, the anticipation feels more like a roller coaster of nerves—refreshing application portals and anxiously awaiting financial aid letters can really test your patience.

Here’s my sage advice: Instead of obsessively checking for updates, take this time to create joyful moments with your child. How about a spontaneous morning coffee at their favorite café—even if it means a late start? Plan a fun shopping day to pick out new bedding or explore Etsy for personalized graduation gifts that’ll truly wow them. One parent had a pillow made with their dog's picture, so her daughter would not miss the dog as much when she left for college.

Start chatting about graduation party dreams—not as a chore or a rush to get the decisions made, but as an exciting brainstorming session. Ask, “Whose grad party last year was the best? Would you prefer a chocolate fountain, a s'mores station; a DJ and music trivia, or maybe a cozy movie night under the stars?” Create an ongoing discussion, inviting them to let you know when they think of something they would really like.

This is the time to take in the joy of this season - perhaps the last time your child lives with you full time.  Plan mini celebrations to spend time with them: call them in late for school and take them to their favorite coffee shop for a nice easy morning together, treat them to their favorite ice cream after an A on the AP test, or let them choose the pizza place to celebrate an award. The key is to shift focus from stress to savoring who they are becoming.

Spending time together instead of wishing time away to make the next decision.  So, take a deep breath, relax, and relish every moment of this special season. Celebrate the journey, not just the destination.

Warmly,
Kelly